A Bride Asks – Are Wedding Attendants Absolutely Necessary?
*Today’s post is suppose to be dedicated to Decor & Details. However, now that I am planning a wedding, I thought it would be fun to stray away from that every once in a while and ask our Lovely readers to help me out with some details!
Now that I’m engaged, I’m super excited to dive right into planning (obvi!) And, according to “The Bride’s Book Of Lists: Things to Do & Questions to Ask” (Note: Yes, I went out and purchased this planner/book. I may work in bridal but I have never planned a wedding so don’t hate!) one of the first things I have to take care of is my wedding attendants. You know, who will be a bridesmaids and who will not.
Back in the old days, weddings were a little less…pleasant than they are now. Since marriages were often arranged between tribes, the groom would head over to the bride’s tribe where he would kidnap her. Often met with resistance (you go girl!) the groom would enlist his best man and groomsmen to go with him and make sure everything would go smoothly. Crazy, right?
Now, I’m not one to stray away from tradition (Okay, I lie. Yes I am. But still!) but is it totally necessary to even have wedding attendants? When I was about 16, I told my sister she was not going to be my maid of honor when I got married. (I know–so mean. But knowing my sister she probably started it!) Of course, my mother overheard this and was super upset I would say such a thing to my lovely (if only my mom knew!) sister. I explained to my mother that my maid of honor would be someone I consider my best friend. Fast forward to 2012 and here I am–in the midst of picking and choosing. Now that we’re older (and live in different cities), my sister and I get along much better. Having said that, I still don’t know that I would pick her as my maid of honor. However, I don’t want to hurt her feelings. I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. Basically, I don’t want to choose which of my girl friends are most important to me and which get to sit on the sidelines. I just want my day to be about me and my fiance. Nothing else.
Now, I’m leaving this to you lovelies. What do you think? Am I crazy for not wanting wedding attendants? Should I stick with tradition or break the mold?
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